I ask every potential client the same question on our first call: "What inner work have you already done?" And here's what I hear almost every time. "I've been in therapy for 5 years. I've read every relationship book. I've done workshops, retreats, spiritual practice. I understand my patterns intellectually." Then I ask: "So what's still not working?" And that's when they break: "I KNOW I have abandonment issues, but I still choose people who leave me. I UNDERSTAND my codependency, but I can't